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The Power of Saying it Out Loud

Have you ever been struck by a feeling of angst, the source of which is completely unknown? “What the heck is the matter with me?” runs through your mind. You try to "snap out of it," but no go.  It's still there.  Sometimes I can assess and figure out such a dilemma within minutes. Other times moments can turn into days before I’m able to acknowledge my lack of peace, provoking the question, “What in the world is causing me to feel this way?”  It’s then that I must stop, look within, attempt to identify my emotions and events of past hours or days.

 

Don't Be Ugly

What happened to “agreeing to disagree,” allowing each other the freedom to express a contrary opinion, without someone else hurling hurtful and downright abusive comments? Why are we seeing friendships literally destroyed right before our eyes, as insults are slung in contrast to previous professions of love?  Or better yet, what happened to keeping our opinions to ourselves? Do we really have to react by voicing EVERY SINGLE THOUGHT that comes into our minds?

Tell Me What to Do...but DON'T Tell Me What To Do!

We LOVE the promises of God’s Word, don’t we? We love to hear about how good He is, how much He loves us, and the blessings He has in store for us.  The thing is, we often miss out on all that stuff because we neglect to take into account our part of the deal in obtaining all of the good stuff.  Then we wonder why we aren't being blessed. As I discovered 20 years ago, we have a say in whether or not we’re going to do what He says in order to obtain the Good Life.

"That's Where the Crazy Comes From" - Removing Family Chaos for Generations to Come

So what’s your “crazy”? If you believe you have no “crazy,” can I respectfully challenge you?  All families have it, because we’re human and imperfect.   By taking the time to identify the crazy, we can then take it to God, allowing Him to heal and restore – showing and enabling us to live a new and better way.  It is then that the power of the past, even if it is that of our great-great-grandparents and beyond, is broken.

Women and Pornography - An Honest Conversation

I would like to talk to talk specifically to all of the Ladies today, however, Men, please read on, as I really want to hear your thoughts on this matter.  What I have to say will very possibly either cause you to go “Yes!” or “Cammie, you’re crazy!” Whatever the outcome, as I used to tell my kids when they were younger, “I love you enough to make you mad at me.”

Silencing the Greatest Naysayer - Ourselves

All too often, the greatest "Naysayer" isn’t someone from without, but rather someone from within – ourselves.  We can be our own worst enemy, self-sabotaging any "God-ideas" that appear in our hearts and/or heads by disqualifying ourselves before we've even allowed God Himself to qualify us.  This scenario has played itself out in my life way too often.   I cannot even tell you how many times I've been guilty - disqualifying myself, or the dream I've been given, within mere minutes of receiving such a vision.  I don’t even allow the dream to take flight before I’ve grounded it to utter failure.

Seriously, He's Not Disappointed in You

During one particular gathering, approximately one year ago, our Senior Pastor spoke of the concept of our personal view of our Heavenly Father being molded and shaped by what we have experienced with our earthly father.  Probably, like you, I’ve both heard and read this viewpoint many times.

"Being a Pastor's Wife is like watching your husband get the crap beat out of him in a boxing ring.  You're outside of the ring watching the entire thing happen, and there's absolutely nothing you can do about it."  Chuck, our spiritual father and counselor had seriously nailed it. That was 1999.  Stan and I were in the middle of the most difficult season that we had ever or would ever experience in ministry.